The History of Mistletoe – The Kissing Plant

Why do we kiss under the Mistletoe?

We all love to kiss under the mistletoe at Christmas.  But have you ever wondered why?  I find it to be an oddity that a parasite plant, such as mistletoe, has come to be associated with an established tradition of kissing at holiday time.  This practice is not a newly discovered way to show affection. It has actual roots in history.Kissing under the mistletoe is not a new tradition. This is one holiday pass time that has actual roots in our history.

Mistletoe is considered a parasite plant.  It lives off of other growing plants and trees.  Since the plant mistletoe has no actual roots, it finds its way onto logs and trees and forms roots there, staying green in the wintertime, even when the host plant is often bare-limbed.  The birds find the berries enticing and they are quite sticky.  If they get some stuck on their beaks, they will rub against trees to remove them, and a host is born.

Mistletoe is a parasite

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The history of the use of mistletoe in folk lore dates back to the Druids.  They considered it a sacred plant and it was used in many of their rituals.  They believed that mistletoe had mystical powers and held the soul of the host tree.

The Druids and mistletoe

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Kissing under the Mistletoe originated with the Roman festival of Saturnalia, the festival or celebration of Saturn.   Just like at Christmas now, kissing under the mistletoe started with the onset of Saturnalia.
The tradition of Kissing Under the Mistletoe

Mistletoe was believed to have specific powers.  It was hung on stable doors to ward off evil spirits, and also on home doorways since it was considered a symbol of fertility.  In fact, throughout the middle ages, mistletoe was banned by the churches because of this belief in its fertility (and the frivolousness that goes along with it!)

Kissing under the mistletoe

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There is hardly a mention of mistletoe in literature in England until the 18th century. But after this, and particularly in Victorian England in the 19th century, the mention of it flourished all over Europe.

There were specific rules to this tradition in England.  The gentleman would pluck one white berry while kissing the lady on the cheek. One kiss is allowed for each berry.  When the berries were done, the tradition was finished.  If a girl refused to kiss, it was said that she should not expect any marriage proposals for at least the next year!

Washington Irving

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Washington Irving, in Christmas Eve, even told of the typical festivities surrounding the Twelve Days of Christmas, including kissing under the mistletoe.  Irving says: “The mistletoe is still hung up in farm-houses and kitchens at Christmas, and the young men have the privilege of kissing the girls under it, plucking each time a berry from the bush. When the berries are all plucked the privilege ceases.”

Victorian Kissing Ball

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 The Victorians took the mistletoe kissing to a new level with their “kissing balls, ” many of which were quite elaborate. And the practice was not limited to the gentry as the photo above shows.  It was widespread with common people too.

 Kissing under the mistletoeThe practice has continued into modern day.  This cover from the Saturday Evening Post shows how we often used mistletoe today, with a single sprig over a woman’s head being enough to initiate the kiss. Often the man holds it himself!

 We moderns have conveniently forgotten the part about plucking the berries (which, incidentally, are poisonous), and also from the stopping from kissing under the mistletoe when the berries run out, since it is so much more fun to continue!

The History of Kissing Under the MistletoeIs mistletoe a part of your Christmas tradition?  Please tell us about it in the comments section below.

  8 comments for “The History of Mistletoe – The Kissing Plant

  1. November 5, 2013 at 11:29 pm

    When I was small my Grandfather had a tree in his front yard with mistletoe growing at the top. My Grandfather and my Father use to get out their guns and shoot the mistletoe down.
    I haven’t thought about that in years. Thanks for the information and the memories.

    • admin
      November 5, 2013 at 11:33 pm

      My pleasure. I’ve never seen it growing wild.

      • lynse
        November 7, 2013 at 11:21 pm

        We see this stufff growing all the time, every year we used to pull some off the tree, and go around being pests with it, all the younger kids acted like it was gross to get kissed! LOL Great times!!

        • admin
          November 7, 2013 at 11:39 pm

          Cute story! Thanks for sharing it.

  2. Adamelia
    December 3, 2016 at 11:21 am

    I just bought my first mistletoe to hang it at the door of my room, me and my husband have a lot of kissing to do….

    • Carol
      December 3, 2016 at 3:16 pm

      I have a ball of it hanging in my kitchen. Since my husband loves to eat, we make good use of it!

      • Xiomara Miner
        April 4, 2017 at 10:18 am

        It is poisinous

  3. Barbara
    December 16, 2016 at 4:47 pm

    Here in Fla,. we have what they call Fla. holly it has red berry’s, it’s of the milk weed family and yes, it to is deadly, but it is really bright colors and long lasting when picked for the door way. Kiss Kiss Kiss.

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